A cherished friendship

The friendship which developed over our similar loss brought my two girls and me over to D's abode last weekend.

We were greeted by D's 'lil boy who opened the gate for us with his cheeky smile. We then saw a glimpse of Princess who quickly dissapeared as fast as she appeared before us. Much later, the two handsome twins came downstairs. D's sweet little angels are shy indeed...

I remember finding pausetoreflect on the eve of the first anniversary of my late hubby's passing in February this year. And boy, was I glad. I had been 'searching' around the blogsphere for stories of young widows in general, with whom I can identify and share stories with...

And there she was -- a recently widowed mother of young children... and exactly my age!! How can I not identify with her??

Thank you, D for having us over... thanks for lunch and the jamuan makan before and after!! Hope we did not overstay our welcome... hehe... Above all, THANKS FOR THE FRIENDSHIP!!

thanks for the lovely gift... luv it!

Stories to share

A couple of weeks after being widowed, I searched the net for support groups for widows. I found WidowSpeak, a website dedicated to widows worldwide - a place where 'you can read widows’ stories, see widows in the news and the arts, visit a photo gallery of widows, learn about widows’ projects, and participate in the discourse of widowhood'.

In the beginning, I was hooked. I read the poems written by young widows like me and cried... it was as though I had written them myself... I even wrote to the webmaster for wanting to contribute my story, and they were more than pleased!

Unfortunately, my 'hunger' to be 'comforted' by this support group was not satisfied. With each passing day, I found myself clicking in their website and immediately clicking out. I eventually took myself out of their email list. It was too depressing! The website that is. There was no light or hope offered... just an avenue to share depressing stories (to me at least, I may be wrong - the website may have helped tons of other widows, wallahu'alam).

That's when I decided to blog. Blog about my life as a widow. But what you see now is just a glimpse of the original blog I created and still keep. That blog is available for my eyes only. It is depressing!!! hehe...

Well, the real reason of this post is to say that I have met wonderful widows in the blogsphere since!!! These are widows who write of hope behind the despair; widows who count their blessings behind the adversity; and widows who find strength in Allah, the Almighty.

This post is especially for them. To D, petite and powerful and Lilinbiru, thanks for sharing your stories with the rest of the world and me, of course! Your stories have inspired me!!!

To D and petite and powerful, you two are such great writers!!! D -- your are my source of inspiration, believe it or not, ok? please, just believe it, why don't you :-)

petite and powerful -- please don't stop writing, ok? You have such flair...

Lilinbiru -- your sincere and unpretentious posts have given me the reason to let my own tears flow, especially when I am in denial of my inner feelings for wanting to 'be strong' ...

Thank you, sisters...

D's Pause to Reflect

petite n powerful

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